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Wednesday September 14, 2005

14th September 2005

Wednesday September 14, 2005

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I just returned from the ER with my neighbor gal.  She is sort of OK.  Has to go to the dr. tomorrow, but they released her from the ER with a heavy dose of pain meds.  Her abdomen went from flat to looking 3-4 months pregnant in the course of the afternoon from swelling (or something) and she was bleeding pretty heavily.  I am so frustrated for her.  It seems like nobody is taking her pain seriously.

For a while I thought I was going to have kick her dh’s butt.  He came home from work.  I had been over at her apartment helping her a bit because she was in so much pain she couldn’t get her small infant out of his swing.  When her dh came home, his initial reaction to “we need to go to the ER” was that he was too tired and couldn’t she just wait until tomorrow.  I can not even comprehend being married to somebody that would have that reaction to the situation.  So, I said I would take her.  I went to my apartment to change into something clean.  In that time, I guess he decided that staying home and watching the kids would be harder than taking her to the ER, so he had HER call and find somebody to watch the kids.  Her mom was ‘too busy’ (another jaw-dropper for me.  I know that I could even call my in-laws, even when we weren’t getting along, and they would have dropped everything to help us in an emergency like that…crap-on-a-stick!  No wonder she puts up with that kind of attitude from her dh, she is used to it). 

So, they go to the ER.  His dad watched the kids.  They weren’t gone more than an hour or so and he called to see if I could go over there because “his dad needed to get home”.  I went over there, his dad was happily feeding the youngest.  I asked if he needed me to finish that for him.  His dad was like “no problem, I am not in a hurry”.  huh?  Within a few minutes, her dh walks in saying he was tired and wanted to know if I can go sit with her at the hospital since she doesn’t want to be alone.  I am happy to have a reason to leave, frankly.

I went to the hospital and sat with her.  He didn’t leave her with any money, so I got her some fast food on the way home (she hadn’t eaten since noon) because otherwise she was going to have to make something for herself when she got home.  (because poop-for-brains can’t manage to make a sandwich or put something in the microwave…I have seen it)  We just got home. 

Zach, who was talking to Robert when much of this happened, was so ticked at Brian.  Heck, Robert thought he was being a jerk and hadn’t even heard all the story yet.  When Dori heard, she immediately offered to come and help watch the kids so he could go to the hospital (before she heard the whole story).  Why is it even our friends, who don’t even know them, are quick to step up and help out, but her dh only did it under pressure.  (and still had her making the child care arrangements)

Want to know the kicker?  When I walked into the ER room, she was on the phone, with her dh, who called her because he was having ‘problems’ with the kids.  wuh.

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There are currently 4 responses to “Wednesday September 14, 2005”

  1. 1 On September 14th, 2005, ladyjabez said:

    Some people can make you so mad by their stupidity and lack of concern for those closest to them……… what an idiot!

  2. 2 On September 14th, 2005, SouloG said:

    Yep… I divorced a guy who is remarkably similar to your neighbor’s DH.  I’m glad you were around to help – you are a terrific friend.

    Also glad to hear that Zane is feeling better.  We had a fever virus earlier this summer – high fever and no other symptoms for about 48 hours.  No fun, but much easier to get over without tylenol.

  3. 3 On September 15th, 2005, mischievium said:

    OMG.. I am just floored at how self-centered her DH sounds, I can’t even imagine. :-( You are a good person for going with her (and for not beating her husband about the head).

  4. 4 On September 15th, 2005, bionicsquirrel said:

    What a total ASS.  I can’t believe it.  I hope, hope, hope that she grows to see how bad he is and finds a way to get out.

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